Ways we say No

"The problem with people thinking the only thing Ansari is guilty of is not being able to read minds, is that they’re framing the encounter as rape or not rape, when regardless of its legal standpoint he should’ve been looking to see if she wanted what was happening to her."

Women have been conditioned to be polite in order to avoid ostracizing labels like bitch or prude, and in some cases to avoid physical violence and death. So, we rely on other ways of communicating like non-verbal cues and body language. Everyone involved in the encounter should be looking for and responding to both verbal and non-verbal cues to ensure that consent is present, and that your partner(s) is having a good time